Resistance – How it shows up and keeps us stuck

A few years back, I had resistance to working with a coach to do some deep work.  I had two main fears:

1) What if I surpassed my husband in terms of personal growth, ruining the possibility for us to stay truly “connected”?  And,

2) What if I stayed the same? (which in my mind was worse than the first one)

Both of these fears were my resistance.  Resistance is simply an unconscious (often self-imposed) defense mechanism that we put in place thinking it’s going to protect us from feeling the hurt, discomfort, pain, anxiety, rejection or whatever it is we don’t want to feel.

Fact is, resistance does the opposite of protecting us from any of those things.  Resistance will bind us to the very pain and discomfort we’re trying so hard to avoid.

We often tell ourselves it’s scary to look inside and get to the root of our emotional stories, dramas, or situations, but the truth is, it’s actually scarier not to.

Once you see it, you can transform it.  Louise Hay has a great quote, “If  you’re going to clean the house, you have to see the dirt.”

You can’t change what you can’t see.

The good news is, once you see the dirt, once you face your resistance and actually DO that thing that scares you, you’re immediately more empowered.  Then you can take steps toward your desires. Any small steps toward what you want will slowly dissipate your fear.

Think about something you’ve been wanting to say yes to, or something that’s been on your desires list and you’ve been too afraid to commit to.   What can you do this week to move you closer to YES?

Think small, baby steps.  Something bite sized and doable.  Then do it!

Taking one step can be the catapult you need for big change.

You got this!

Sending you big love….

xo

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